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- February 22, 2015 at 5:15 pm #6163
Has anyone got any clues about how to have sex after this operation that I had 3 weeks ago?
I am 64 and just got remarried in June 2014 and this lack of mobility etc. is taking it’s toll on our relationship in the intimacy department.
I hope this question is not too out there for this forum.
- March 2, 2015 at 8:29 pm #6214
well I feel a little funny posting about this, but you will have to make some adjustments for sure. nothing involving, um, kneeling or weight bearing on your bad leg. the rest will depend on how good your balance is. I reccommend being on the bottom for a while. heck, you can even keep your brace on if you’re more comfortable
- March 4, 2015 at 11:53 pm #6233
hah! Sorry to laugh but I am going through the same trials and tribulations. This injury has put a real strain on my relationship with my bf. Mainly through feeling unattractive with my useless leg and a knock to my confidence being housebound. Sex is possible so long as your partner is gentle and your leg is pushed to the side. Just be really careful & it’s ok. Very plain sex just on your back but better than nothing
- March 5, 2015 at 12:30 am #6236
Thank you to both of you.
I know it is a “private” subject and I really appreciate the feedback.
- March 5, 2015 at 2:08 am #6241
It isn’t just a concern for women. My leg is horrible to look at because of the compartment syndrome. Two huge, ugly wounds on my lower leg, the scars at my knee from the repair, the scars in my lower leg and thigh from the temporary external fixator, and then the very large skin graft donor sight (for the fasciotomy openings) that starts at my knee and ends above my hip. When my wife first saw all of this I know she through it was gross (although she would never say so) and she was afraid to do anything that might lead to injury. It also was a concern for me.
Sex is not nearly as active as before. However, she has to do all the work now which isn’t such a bad thing! Things should get better once I can get to weight bearing but it is certainly challenging for now.
- December 21, 2017 at 5:18 pm #110414
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- February 11, 2018 at 8:42 am #110433
I can understand everyone’s frustrations with this…. I’m single and feel I’ve aged 10yrs, haven’t gotten my hair done in months, haven’t don’t anything I use to do to feel attractive, so I’ve isolated myself to the house, also winter weather don’t help… This TPF has caused just as much emotional pain as physical….