I am going through the same thing. People who I thought were good friends tell me to not ask them to come over to help when I haven’t even asked them. And other people who are just acquaintances have come forward to lend a hand.
I have lost a friend over this but have gained so many more.
Family, except for my wonderful husband, have done nothing.
I think some people just do not know how to be around people who are laid up.
God bless them.